The death of someone you love can often be derailing. All consuming.
Even weeks and months later, reminders of the loss can trigger a further cascade of confusion and pain. You want to move on but you can't and you know it's affecting your performance and relationships.
Welcome to the human race. All sentient people will occasionally experience moments when they are propelled into a cocktail of unpleasant grief emotions - and they will be, despite best intentions, derailing. Business people, in particular, feel they need to stand up tall, show some backbone, but in their hearts and minds, they want to curl into a ball. To their colleagues, they may seem anything from robotic and detached to overly emotional and intolerant. They are not, it seems, the same person, they used to be.
When you encounter this situation in your business it's worth remembering that the situation is not a problem to be solved - it's not a client to be won, an invoice to be a chased or a product to be launched. The essence of humanity and how we respond to significant loss are varied and often an intense interaction of our hormones, creating unexpected and unpredictable responses.
So how then can one help colleagues who are experiencing grief? The following pointers might be helpful:
Over time, things will get better - the path to acceptance can be a long one and even then, sadness may remain. As a business, your support may be critical and one that will be appreciated by your colleague for years to come.
Chris Lorimer is a highly experienced business coach who helps those who are experiencing difficult circumstances, including bereavement. He is an accredited trainer and coach of Emotional Logic.
Chris Lorimer is an
experienced management consultant who has helped many owners, Directors and staff to achieve more.